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What It’s Like Being a Pashtun Woman on Social Media – Story 4: when men send you porn to try to silence you

Continuing our series on Pashtun women’s experiences with social media / what it’s like being a Pashtun woman on good ol’ internet. (The other stories are linked at the bottom of this post. PLEASE read the Introduction to the series so you understand why I choose to focus on Pashtuns and not on other people. No, harassment and intimidation have no race, I know that.) Note that one of the […]

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Responses to the Sexual Abuse Post – Part 6

Apologies, readers, that this was lost in my drafts somewhere! Here’s another response to the series on sexual abuse. This is the account of a male reader who shares the impact of his now 40-year-old brother’s abuse on both the brother and the family. God grant all involved innocent parties peace and strength. What a burden and pain to carry for so long . . . 9. What I’m pasting […]

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The Link Between Authority and Knowledge – or: how knowledge is gendered

Nobody believes me when I say authority has everything to do with gender (well, okay, some people do believe me, especially the Muslim feminists – God bless you all!). I’ll write on this–i.e., on how knowledge is gendered, on how the production of knowledge is gendered because of who creates it–in more detail some other time, though I attempted to sketch out the problem with gendering authority in a guest […]

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It’s Not About a Can of Diet Soda: United Airline’s Dismissive and Reductive Response to Islamophobia

Okay, so. This should be obvious by now, and no one should have to point out that “Hey, this isn’t about a simple can of diet coke, people! This is about a larger issue that actually has violent and lethal consequences for many who are subjected to it!” But apparently, it’s not that obvious, and, let alone the media, even United Airlines is being all “we did try to accommodate […]

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On Angry, “Bitchy” Women – and death to patriarchy!

I’ve met lots and lots of girls and women who are what society would label angry and bitchy. The kind who are really hard to deal with because they’re just so constantly angry — because we are socially programmed to deal ONLY with nice, soft-spoken, soft-minded, and just generally soft girls because that’s how all girls are supposed to be. This post is about calling ourselves and each other out […]

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The Prophet’s Wives Were Not Happy Co-Wives – and what happens when Muslim women say this out loud

A Note to Islamophobes excited to find something they can present as proof of a Muslim woman’s “oppression” because of Islam: This post is not an attack on Islam (I’m a Muslim and always will be; you can’t take that away from me. I also love my religion, and you can’t take that away from me, either. And I have much respect for my Prophet and his wives – again, […]

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How my Qur’an Teacher Sexually Abused Girls

In light of the recent discovery that a “high-profile Chicago imam” has been sexually abusing women, men, and children, I decided to share a post of mine I wrote a few years ago on the old blog. When I wrote it first on the old blog, the comments were surprisingly supportive in response to it; scroll down to see them if interested – kudos to humanity! We’re going somewhere! Pasting […]

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On female friendships – and death to patriarchy

The last several months, I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships (and love and stuff). I’ve grown to love my friends, I’ve gotten closer to the ones I was already close to–’cause life and shit teaches you to keep the good people in your life closer to you because they’re a blessing; good friends and a good friendship are great excuses to be happy … not that you should ever […]

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Thoughts on the 2014 CAIR Banquet in San Diego

Amusingly patriarchal things happened before, during, and after the CAIR (Council on American-Islamic Relations) banquet in San Diego this past November. Generally speaking–and very, very generally speaking–I can only say that the Muslim community and Muslim leaders have a distressing amount of progress to make in terms of acknowledging women’s voices and concerns. And leadership! You see, The Fatal Feminist (Nahida) and I decided that since we were already in […]

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Pashtuns bringing up “shame” in the kidnapping of the 26+ Pashtun girls

The latest news regarding anything my people (the Pukhtuns) is that at least 26 girls from the Bajaur Agency (Pakistan side of the border) were discovered today, November 26th, in a home in Karachi, a home where they were being kept captive. The girls are between the ages of 8 and 10 and do not speak Urdu. One man and two women are currently in custody for interrogation. It looks […]

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